Honor is a word widely ignored. I found myself telling my son when he argued that he did not have to agree with me, but he still had to honor me as his parent. I began to reflect on that tidbit and realized that we as a society tend to be lacking in honor.
A lot of us have adopted the idea that to be okay we have to agree implicitly with one another. What if we reverse that thought, and begin to tell ourselves all we have to do is honor ourselves and each other. If we can honor each other through differences then we will be able to reach a new level of conscious being, and open ourselves up to heightened mental state.
Imagine… you honor somebody enough to hear them out without contemplating your own agenda. Bam! You have just opened your mind up to a whole new place. If you aren’t busy forming your rebuttal you might hear what somebody is trying to say. You are flexing your mind. the more you know, hear, see, experience the smarter you are. If you are not constantly searching for a way to make your point or be right then you will remove a tremendous amount of stress in your life. Suddenly it is okay if they have a different perspective, and it’s no longer your job to convince anybody of anything. Secondarily honor goes both ways. You have to honor yourself as well. This may mean that you don’t change your mind about how you feel at all, and that is okay.
So here are several ways to honor yourself and invite a heightened level of self-care into your life.
- Listen to yourself. What are you truly saying. Maybe the words coming out of your mouth are yes but realistically you need to say no. Try this… for a week when anybody asks you to do something instead of saying yes or no say ” Let me see if I can. ” Then take your time and get back to the person. Maybe the answer is hell yeah. maybe it’s not right now. Either way you honored yourself enough to take the time you needed to listen to yourself.
- Evaluate your desires on a couple of levels. Is it imperative to making you a better you? Will it hurt your family? Can you afford it? If the answer to these questions is an astounding YES, NO, YES. Then what the hell… do it. That is honoring your personal desires which should be as important as the desires of your loved ones.
- Take care of yourself. Body, soul and mind. Invest in a beauty budget to keep your body running optimally. Figure out what nourishes your soul. Self help books, yoga or meditation. Workout your brain by reading books or taking time to connect with people who challenge you mentally. If it nourishes your body, soul or mind then it is worth it!