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Experiences > Things

Hey sweet clients. Here is what has been on my mind lately. Things that have grown up around me and taken over my life. Somehow we accrue things that we want and believe will make us happy. Over time we build a life of things that we thought would fill us up. Thing after thing is cast aside and a new thing is brought in it’s place and somehow the void is not filled. We have also heaved ourselves a hefty portion of work to go along with that emptiness. All those things have to be taken care of, cleaned up and dealt with. I have been on a mission to replace some of the things I think I want with experiences instead. I have the idea that what I will take away from those genuine moments I spend with other people is more personal fulfillment then I could ever find in my things.

Don’t get me wrong. Nice things are nice. I would much rather purchase a quality item that I love and will last than anything else. By all means if you have a physical need fill it… but is it a need? I like to play would I rather. I am looking at a super cute coffee mug and I want it real bad. Would I rather have that mug or use that $15 towards a pedicure that I could go and experience with my BFF or one of my sisters. Would I rather use that money to buy myself a drink at happy hour with my amazing co workers. Would I rather use that extra money towards a relaxing massage or facial. The mug is nice. I have 15 of them at home sure but this one is shaped like a cat. It feels like a must. Well hell eventually you find yourself cleaning a sink full of coffee mugs in the morning before you go to work and wish like hell you had gotten that pedicure instead.

This is just a theory I am testing out at the moment. I would really like you to join the experiment and share your “experiences” (pun feverishly intended) with me. You can reach me via email at heather@pommespa.com or by commenting on this post. I can’t wait to hear what you did and your thoughts on if you felt more fulfilled afterwards.

I personally am working on integrating this method in my business by making my hair appointments more of an experience my for my clients. Every color appointment comes with a facial while your color processes. You wont have time to work or check your phone because you will be busy experiencing the appointment from start to finish. I am thinking of gently suggesting that my clients leave their devices in their bags and focus on the experience but I have not gotten there yet. I would love to catch your thoughts on that idea as well though.

Until we write again… Peace. Love. Pomme.

 

 

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Most honest self-care tip of all time…

Honor is a word widely ignored. I found myself telling my son when he argued that he did not have to agree with me, but he still had to honor me as his parent. I began to reflect on that tidbit and realized that we as a society tend to be lacking in honor.

A lot of us have adopted the idea that to be okay we have to agree implicitly with one another.  What if we reverse that thought, and begin to tell ourselves all we have to do is honor ourselves and each other.  If we can honor each other through differences then we will be able to reach a new level of conscious being, and open ourselves up to heightened mental state.

Imagine… you honor somebody enough to hear them out without contemplating your own agenda. Bam! You have just opened your mind up to a whole new place. If you aren’t busy forming your rebuttal you might hear what somebody is trying to say. You are flexing your mind. the more you know, hear, see, experience the smarter you are. If you are not constantly searching for a way to make your point or be right then you will remove a tremendous amount of stress in your life. Suddenly it is okay if they have a different perspective, and it’s no longer your job to convince anybody of anything.  Secondarily honor goes both ways. You have to honor yourself as well. This may mean that you don’t change your mind about how you feel at all, and that is okay.

So here are several ways to honor yourself and invite a heightened level of self-care into your life.

  1. Listen to yourself. What are you truly saying. Maybe the words coming out of your mouth are yes but realistically you need to say no. Try this… for a week when anybody asks you to do something instead of saying yes or no say ” Let me see if I can. ” Then take your time and get back to the person. Maybe the answer is hell yeah. maybe it’s not right now. Either way you honored yourself enough to take the time you needed to listen to yourself.
  2. Evaluate your desires on a couple of levels. Is it imperative to making you a better you? Will it hurt your family? Can you afford it? If the answer to these questions is an astounding YES, NO, YES. Then what the hell… do it.  That is honoring your personal desires which should be as important as the desires of your loved ones.
  3. Take care of yourself. Body, soul and mind. Invest in a beauty budget to keep your body running optimally. Figure out what nourishes your soul. Self help books, yoga or meditation. Workout your brain by reading books or taking time to connect with people who challenge you mentally. If it nourishes your body, soul or mind then it is worth it!

xoxo

All the reasons you should be treating your scalp instead of your hair.

Another lovely day to talk about your HAIR. If you haven’t figured it out it is basically my all time favorite subject. Call me a hair nerd if you will but girlfriend knows what she is talking about okurrrrr?

Now that I got that out of my system I will be serious. If you have a nagging hair problem that you can’t seem to shake no matter what products you use or how well you follow your stylists instructions… it might actually be a scalp problem. Truthfully our hair growth begins inside our bodies and if you aren’t addressing your insides then the hair won’t be healthy especially after it has been on your head for a while, keratinized and exposed to the elements. So here are a few tips of how you can take care of your hair starting with your scalp.

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  1. Healthy eating habits. If you are not getting the proper nutrition you won’t grow properly. Opinion on my part but I think you will find it backed up by science with a simple google sess. Make sure your body is not lacking in any essential vitamins. To boost your hair health specifically you may want to consider some of these gems…
    1. Swiss Chard is chock full of Biotin which will help you hair grow.
    2. Salmon is high in Omega-3 which can help with dandruff and dry scalp.
    3. Final recommendation, Spinach. It has vitamin C which can help regulate your scalps oil production.

There is A LOT more foods that are good for your hair health but if you want more info consider booking a complimentary consultation with your stylist.

  1. Olaplex. Everybody should be using Olaplex. It reconnects your broken disulfide bonds which is the lifeline of your hairs health. PLEASE do yourself a favor and ask your stylist about it. It should be in all your color services and you definitely need Olaplex step 2 at home. I recommend slathering it on your mid shafts and combing through. Wrap it up in a high bun or braid it to get it out of your way and go to bed. Let it work its magic baby. When you wake up your going to want to wash it out and condition as usual. Please don’t underestimate the power of this product. It is AMAZING.
  2. At least once a year you should be booking a service with your stylist to include a scalp and hair detox and condition treatment. I like to begin with a detox treatment to remove build up followed by a special shampoo to treat your scalp specifically. Then a stand alone Olaplex treatment and finished with a customized conditioning treatment. I will often use one deep conditioner on the scalp and a different one on the hair. This service is vital to removing unhealthy scalp and hair build up and making your hair feel totally young again.
  3. My last tip is in your shower. Make sure the shampoo and conditioner you are using is professional quality. The ultimate hair killer is drugstore shampoo and conditioner. I can not impress upon you enough how dishonest the unprofessional beauty industry is about their products and ingredients. They are not closely regulated by the FDA and I can practically guarantee contain ingredients that are harmful to you. YES even if it is labeled all natural, organic, sulfate free etc. Do not put that on your body to sink into your blood stream. I am of the opinion that continued use of these products can cause permanent hair loss in old age among other internal medical issues. Secondarily the shampoo you pick should be aimed at addressing your scalp specific concerns and your conditioner is what you use to take care of your hair. Your stylist can help you choose the best combination.

 

With all the love I have I wish you the most healthful and happy hair journey and I hope to see you in the salon very soon.

xoxo,

Love

Why I chose ORANGE lipstick (and what you should choose)

Hey there ORANGE lipstick here. Just checking in with all my bright and shining glory. Ever thought about slipping a little bit of this magic right on those perfect lips? No. Oh. That’s really sad. Lets talk about that…

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Orange Lipstick

There are a lot of choices out there when it comes to your lips. Most people choose to shy away from colors that are very bright or obvious. I am going to shine a light on your choices by breaking it down for you technically because there is a science to your color choices.

Introducing the color wheel. A basic color wheel consists of your primary colors. Red, blue and yellow. All other colors come from mixing these three OG’s. When you start to put these colors together you can see that you get your purples greens and oranges. The colors on either side of any specific color are called complimentary colors. This means that they look good together.

The next thing to know is that there are different tones. They can really be categorized into 3 areas. There are cool tones, warm tones and neutral tones. The key to finding your PERFECT LIP COLOR is to figure out what your skin’s under tone is. I have a pink undertone in my skin. This is why I flush easily and have some skin sensitivities. This is common in people with fair skin.

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Color Wheel

The next tidbit is that anything on the yellow, orange and red side are warm tones. Pink is actually red and white which means there is a warmth to that tone as well. Since pink is basically red that means I actually have a warm undertone despite how fair-skinned I am.

Are you totally bored yet? Hang in there because I promise you will really appreciate this when you find your signature color. So if you look at the color on either side of red which we have established is my skin’s undertone you can see that the complimentary colors are purple and orange. So you have seen me in Orange lipstick. Let’s test the theory with a little photo of my lips decked out in purple. The key here is to select a purple on the warm side. Anything to blue will actually be cool which is the opposite of my skins warm undertone. Blue is fun and I rock it on occasion but I admit it does not look as good as the purple and orange lipsticks I use.

Screenshot_20180522-205732Surprise! Doesn’t it look good. I know you had your doubts. I’m not mad. Now that you know you can determine what your skin’s undertone is you can try out all the lips shades you never thought you could wear! For example if you have that olive skin it is actually a green undertone. Try a golden lipstick shade or you will be surprised to find that a blue or teal lip color might look good on you! I know it’s daring but you can try it out at home on  a Sunday when nobody is watching.

Ultimately determining your undertone is key to finding your complimentary colors. If you don’t know how to start all you have to do is book a consultation with your stylist. They can help you discover all kinds of fun things about your look. This same concept is transferable to your hair and clothes to. You can book your consultation on our website at http://www.pommespa.com with any of our amazing stylists. Until then Peace. Love. Pomme.

xoxo

Love